Why Do We Spend the Time Doing it?
Chances are if you were asked to say what the people in your life want, you may have to take some time thinking about it. On the other hand, if asked what they don’t want. You’d probably have an answer without having to think about it at all!
Why? Because too many people spend too much time explaining what they don’t want and all of us are guilty of it at one time or another.
I used to explain everything in terms of what I didn’t want and I faced disappointment more times than I care to remember. One day I decided to do something about it.
I kept telling myself: "Why not get clear about what you do want and talk about that instead”.
I think it’s clear what the consequences of this way of thinking is, but I’ll mention it just to make sure.
Spend most of your time focusing on what you don’t want and you’ll become an expert at getting what you don’t want.
If you had agreed to pay somebody to work for you, let’s say you’ve employed an architect to design your new home and you tell her all the things you don’t want built into the design. Where do you think the architect’s focus is going to be? No matter how professional or talented she is the focus on the undesirable is going to affect the design.
Far better to design your dream home from the perspective of the dream, not the nightmare!
It’s a habit, just like everything else in your mind that is causing your world around you. Get the ball rolling by purposefully canceling any statements you make that in the vein of what you don’t want, replace them with their opposite and deliberately talk about what you do want. If you feel silly doing that with certain people, don’t talk about either, but keep what you want in mind.
Keep exercising the mind’s muscle and enjoy getting on with whatever needs getting on with! It’s all you can do.
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